Friday, August 25, 2017

just wait, don't share

I mentor youth. Most of the time it’s coaching.

One observation I have made is, when I ask a question like, “What would you like to talk about?” they reply, “I don't know” and shrug their shoulders at the same time.

Usually when they reply this way a parent, teacher or adult in their life sees this as an open door for them to launch into sharing all the wisdom they possess.
I've found after waiting for about 10 seconds they start to talk.

It’s like they know that when they reply with, “I don’t know” it allows them not to have to answer or think, they can get away from sharing their thoughts.


One mum was convinced that her son wouldn’t say anything, he spoke for about 80% of our time together.

Thursday, May 04, 2017

Listen the 3rd way

We can listen three ways.

For some of us we don’t listen, we wait to speak. We are smiling, nodding and looking at the person and at the same time the only reason we are doing this is so that we know when to jump into the conversation, we’re not listening.

For some of us we listen to reply. We also display all the listening skills we know and the reason is so that we can share that great story or insight, we’re not listening.

For some of us we listen for understanding, we will ask question so the other person can keep talking, so that we can gain more understanding.

Listen the 3rd way.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Friendship evangelism

When we talk to our young people about evangelism what we usually talk about can be referred to as friendship evangelism.

The trouble is if our friendships only stay at friendships then we have failed.
Jesus didn’t say, Therefore go and make friends
He said Therefore go and make disciples

This reminds me of a story I’ve heard.
There were two men, John and Jack, they were best mates.
They were both the same age, they grow up together, played sport together, went to the same schools, got married around the same time and had kids the same age.
The thing is that John was a Christian and Jack wasn’t.
John was always looking for an opportunity to talk to Jack about Jesus, but it just never happened.
When they were both very old Jack was in hospital close to death, John went in to visit hoping he could tell him about Jesus before Jack died.
John said to jack, “There is something that is very important to me that I have been meaning to tell you my whole life.”

Jack replied, “If it was that important to you, you would have told me ages ago.”

Monday, August 22, 2016

It will rub off

There is a temptation at our youth groups just to “do life”.
And doing life does make disciples, when we share the gospel.

We can think that discipleship will rub off.
It will happen almost accidentally.
That if a person can stay in our programs long enough God will save them.

For many of us we still pray that God would change people, we just secretly hope he doesn’t use us.

One of the deficiency’s in this model is that our non-Christian youth think that being a Christian is about being a good person.
We need to tell them the reason we are living the way we are.
It’s the response to a right relationship with Jesus. Not the way to try and earn a right relationship with Jesus.


We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us. 1 Thessalonians 2:8

Monday, August 08, 2016

Myths of Discipleship - Discipleship is for hard core Christians


As leaders we identify young people in our children’s and youth ministry and we want to invest in them.

When we catch up with them we call it discipleship (and it is!).

The trouble is, that in some people’s eyes that person is a disciple and they are a Christian.

They see a disciple as, someone who is really committed to making disciples or as a person who might go to Bible college and become a minister or missionary.

The problem is that suggests that there are two levels of Christians.
There are Christians and there are disciples.

Christians are your average person who trust in Jesus’ death and resurrection and the disciple is a super charged version.


We need to be reinforcing to our people if you are a Christian, you are a disciple and a disciple maker.