Friday, August 25, 2017

just wait, don't share

I mentor youth. Most of the time it’s coaching.

One observation I have made is, when I ask a question like, “What would you like to talk about?” they reply, “I don't know” and shrug their shoulders at the same time.

Usually when they reply this way a parent, teacher or adult in their life sees this as an open door for them to launch into sharing all the wisdom they possess.
I've found after waiting for about 10 seconds they start to talk.

It’s like they know that when they reply with, “I don’t know” it allows them not to have to answer or think, they can get away from sharing their thoughts.

One mum was convinced that her son wouldn’t say anything, he spoke for about 80% of our time together.

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