If your relationship was a donut

I’m sitting in a coffee and pastry shop with a youth talking about school, family and sport.

I want to ask him, “How’s your relationship with God going?”

Instead I ask, “If your relationship with God was a donut, what flavour would it be?”

The reply comes back, “Not a tasty one, like this one.” (points at his donut)

Me, “What makes you say that?”

He goes onto explain the reason for his answer.

I have found this type of question less threatening than the one I was thinking of asking.

It helps them reflect on their answer and give detail.

Also, it doesn’t sound like a question a parent would ask.

So, “If your relationship with God was a donut, what flavour would it be?”

“What makes you say that?”